Those who know me, know that it takes a lot to make me upset because I’ve learned how to manage my emotions in such a way that I process and release what does not bring me happiness.

I’ll be honest to admit that it was not easy, and it took a lot of internal work on my self-esteem and personal values. I used to allow people to throw their ugly negative or narcistic energy around all over the place. Because us “healers” and caring individuals were supposed to be passive and not responsive to the “icky” behaviors of others…not blaming my choice of decisions or upbringing at all, but reflecting where some messed up thought patterns may have sadly developed.

I’m also the type of person that looks at where attitudes and actions are derived from as well the triggers connected to them. I no longer allow low vibration manipulation to come into my life and the excuses that usually come with it. I believe that there should always be balance and respect. If you find yourself in awkward conversations, then there is an imbalance somewhere and you must determine why you are being perceived differently than you perceive them.

I choose to understand the context of a situation going bad before getting upset. Assessment is my superpower as a nurse and Certified Professional Coach, so I investigate the source. There’s always a root cause that makes the effect. 

I will also admit that my self-respect also kicks in and I talk myself out of heading down a path of no return. Many times I will admit, when dealing with the everyday stresses of life, it can become overwhelming when faced with unexpected situations. This is the time I choose to release pent up emotions quickly, because obviously I did not process the day’s experiences with gratitude. Maybe, life just got busy, and being a mom, wife and business owner can become quite the balancing act to deal with at times.

“Find your anchor and hold on when life events try to break you down”

Today, I took a moment and reflected on what peace meant to me and I kept hearing myself say, “It’s when nothing else matters around me. I’ve given it away, and troubles no longer come my way.” So, I’m asking you, how do you find serenity or peace in the hustle and bustle of your life? Take some time and give yourself the opportunity to be proud of being in control of your emotional intelligence. Don’t get caught up in other people’s dramas or traumas. Don’t let anyone else’s agendas throw you off your peaceful path. Find your anchor and hold on when life events try to break you down. You’re going to get through and you’re going to overcome. Let your faith kick in to your highest power. You know you are walking through a storm, but every storm has a rainbow at the end.

Another way of looking at it is that most people have mental frameworks that are set into perpetual motion and unfortunately it doesn’t always include being emotionally sensitive to read between the lines of texting, talking or phone conversations. Therefore, unless you are living with someone, you cannot perceive how they will behave or respond based on your lack of observations from their daily patterns and behaviors. Even then it becomes difficult trying to understand someone who is not ready to be understood themselves. At this time, I encourage you to let your stress go. Meditate, pray, do something relaxing, use some essential oils or take a nice luscious nap.

However you choose to find your serenity, let it always be the energy that surrounds you peacefully.

I hope this message helps someone today. Always remember that you’re so precious. Don’t keep beating yourself up over a relationship that never existed to begin with, or an experience that left you feeling emotionally violated. You deserve so much better than that.

Thank you for reading my message.

I wish you Joy, Love and Peace always.

Anita Sechesky

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